Rachel and Adebayo has been together for three year. It was a relationship everybody envy because, they look lovely together but how it happened, was what they do not know. “I just saw them together one day”, her friend Titi said to people who asked her.
Everyone questions, actually made Titi sat down to think about her friend relationship. Not because she was jealous, but because she want the best for her friend always. She remembered, Rachel did not actually tell her how it happened. She only told her she was going out with bayo and how they met. Titi picked her phone, she texted Rachel that they need to discuss.
Rachel came the next day, looking elegant and lovely as ever. She stretched forth her hands to open the door, as she was use to not knocking but Titi who has locked the door, perceived some one was at the door as she moved closer to the door to unlock it. Gboah! Rachel said as the door opened, Titi who was used to her funny ways just kept smiling and ushered her into the room.
“What would you like to eat and drink” Titi asked her, she said “I am not a visitor and if i am hungry, i know the way to the kitchen”. “I know right” Titi said smiling. “You said you we have to discuss and what about that?” Rachel said, as the word, kept ringing in her in her mind.
“Yes, it is concerning your relationship with bayo” Titi said, as she continued “I really want to know how it started. Did bayo actually propose? Or, is it crushing stuff, you guys had together that lead to the relationship?. How did it start? I want you to be sincere”. Rachel was speechless as she was searching for the answers to those questions and finally, she said “To be sincere, he did not propose to me. We just became so close and I feel we love each other and we started going out”
Titi was suprised and depressed as she said “Really, call him or text him and ask him to define the relationship” What if, it is was just an infatuation or he is not seeing things, the way you are. Rachel did as she said, as her understanding got enlightened.
The reply she got, made her heart broken. She could not tell Titi herself as she gave her phone to see “Actually, i believe we are one big family. I see you as a friend and someone i cherish, i have someone i am engaged to” Titi read it loud. “This means all this while, you have been going out as a friend not as lovers”. Titi said, as she looked at her friend eyes which was already soaked with tears.
Ladies, just because a guy you like or crushing at, takes you out, keeps telling you sweet and lovely words, should not grant you the permission to conclude you are already in a relationship with him.
Guide your heart dilligently. Defining your relationship, would keep you from unnecessary Heartbreaks! Do not submit your life to certain things all in the name of love. Do not let one guy, monopolise your airspace. Do not let him hinder the right person from coming in.
Also, to the brothers. Why are you checking, testing out every ladies when you are not ready for a relationship, or when you have someone you are in a relationship with. Leave the lady alone and let the rightful one come.
*Every relationship must be defined.* *An undefined relationship, is a dangerous relationship because when it is not defined, you give room for assumptions and assumption is the lowest level of knowledge.*
DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
I love you all!!
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