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CRUSHED


"Eeee e, wetin man no go see for this country o. I was jejely on my own and a bike man nearly hit me where I was standing, looking for cab o. I was angry and was about to slap him before he started begging. I said to myself " Demilade be gentle".

I calmed down and asked what happened. He said some soldiers were running after him. After his explanations, I realized how wrong I judged him. My bad abi, yes I know and I pray God help me o ore" Demilade said but her friend, Olaide was lost in tears. She moved closer to her.

"Olaide mi. Kilo tun de(My Olaide, what again this time? She asked as she placed her hands on her cheeks but instead of her to talk, tears kept running down like an open tap.

" Olaide, please talk to me. I don't like the way you are behaving these days...

"What do you want me say now? After how many years ehn! 5years of crushing and getting close to him. He introduced me to his friends, parents and siblings. He told me many things about him like, his best food, hobbies, etc. He even said he likes me and sometimes, he would say he loves me.

He shared things he couldn't tell his closest friends with me. We eat, play, gist, pray and study together. Sometimes, he would kiss my fore head, play with my fingers and tell me how beautiful I am.

Until today, when he called me and said he wanted to see me. I was happy and glad, I felt my dreams and prayers were finally answered. I thought he was about to propose but instead, he told me he has now seen the lady he want to get married to. I was surprised and could not believe him as I asked " What about me? 

He smiled and said "Common, you just my best friend. You are my bestie, we are one big family. I cried and said " All those pecks, hugs, text and words of how beautiful I am, so its just for best friend and not to get married. I am not the lady you can get married too". 

Then he said "No, you've gotten everything wrong Olaide. You are my bestie and you know i cherish you". Immediately, I left his house and here I am crying out my foolishness.

"Jesus! You mean Bayo did this?....

Ladies, we need to identity the limit we can go with our so called CRUSH. You need to define everything going on between the both of you, if there is. You need clarity and how to behave around him. Maybe he is your classmate, course mate, office mate, etc. 

Don't be carried away by everything he says and do. Stop assumption because he get you snacks, iced cream, takes you out and says nice things about you, doesn't mean he feels the same way about you. He might see you as his friend at that moment.

Define your relationship, so that you won't be CRUSHED. It's essential to know if you are on the same page. Be sure he loves you like you do and kill assumption. Don't be to fast to assume.

Thank you as you do so. I love you!

 *Alokan Temilade Victoria*
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