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BLAMES



Why is everyone blaming me?
Many at times, people carry a lot of assumptions without hearing the story,
We are also passing through a lot,
There's a lot to say" Dupe paused to check their reaction.

Knowing fully well that I'm they don't understand what she was saying, she had to come out plain

"Off course, I'm a single mother but why do people look at me like shit, an harlot?
I had instances where I was in serious relationships but after hearing I'm a single mother,
They flee
Yes I accept I made mistakes but why does everyone keep seeing me as a mistake.
Even at work, it's either men make sexual advances or everyone just assumed I am a loose/cheap lady
Nobody even wants to listen, why?

Why does it look like I'm the only one that has the greatest sin in the whole world?
Why don't they blame the guy too?
It amazes me, how fellow women can take up the judge position but fails to blamed the guy too

I often hear statement like,.
Nobody want to marry a single mother
She is so she loose that why she gave birth out if wedlock
I must not see you near my daughter
I'm sure she must have slept with several men
She is too loose to be a wife
She is just looking for a rich man to take care of her
Nobody will marry a second hand,
Yet,
What people failed to ask, is how have you been coping?
All they see is sin, blames yet many of them are doing worst that I am" Dupe said angry 

Hmmm
To every single mothers, (S.M) you already knew what you will get from the people yet, you still took the step to keep the child which is better than killing the child(Abortion)

The truth is, the society has painted the S.M as a stigma even without hearing the story behind it. Everyone looks at you as a sin yet, there are people who has done worst than you 
Just because theirs isn't seen yet

How you carry yourself also matters,
If it's becoming a reoccurring situation, it shows and it tells a lot of meaning to who you are and you definitely needs to stop,
Think about what the child will think of you when they grow up even they might also experience what you are pass through now.

It might also affect them mentally, socially. 
So in whatever you do, let your mistake end as a mistake.
Don't entertain it.
Yes, people might not accept you easily
Yes, people might be looking at you with bad eyes
The people you think can console you, might also open up another wound but,
Carry yourself well,
Work to make yourself better and make people around you proud 

To every single mother, 
I know there's always a story behind it but,
What will yours speak about?
If you are still seeking for validation from men,
You will end up losing your self worth
Stay with God and let him flame you to His Fire
Who knows, you might find your purpose in your pain
If you walk with God, you won't remain the same. Don't be discouraged

*Alokan Temilade Victoria*
*Light Lamp*
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