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T.F.D(The First Daughter)

*T.F.D(The First Daughter)*

Many words left unsaid 
Many things are unseen
But, who can relate
What we see most of the time is the result
Nobody knows how you got there" Pedro said as she was sharing with the ladies but most of them couldn't understand as she wasn't clear with her words

"Sometimes you might thinks, it's easy to be like someone but,
Most people don't see the sacrifice, struggles that comes with it. Hmmm" Pedro sighed as she continues "Off course, I am the first daughter and I'm expected to be a role model.

Behind the role model,
There are some struggles to put a smile on your siblings
There are some unhappiness you want to break free but you can't because you want to sacrifice
There are some moment you also want to act like a baby even in the midst of every situation but you need to pull yourself together because you are the older one and you have to lead
There are moments you starve yourself just to put smiles on your younger one.
No one is talking about the moment you picked up the motherly duties, all of a sudden you become the SMALL MUMMY in as much the needs are being met
There are moments, you cry when you couldn't met up to the needs of the younger ones and at that moments you are beginning to fail and if not corrected, disrespect comes in
There are moments you sacrifice your happiness for the happiness of others
Nobody is talking about the understanding moment. The moment when you need to act understandable either you like it or not.
There are moments when you remember what will happen if you fail to fulfil that one time promise and sometimes, it leads to debt, unwanted actions, etc.
There are moments where you sit outside when everyone is asleep and cry deeply especially when you remember the things you have passed through, what you need to do and how much that is going to cost you, the stress you and how drained you feel.
There are moments, when you just want to end everything but you can't especially when you know it can make the family fall apart
There are moments when you want to give excuses but it makes you seem like you are about to cut tides because they can't just understand you.
There are moments you get misunderstood but you accept it all because you just want peace to reign
There are moments you want to shout and scream at everything but you know doing that will make you lose your siblings respect because you always have to be obedient.
There are moments you need to build strength and capacity to be strong 

Hmmm,
There are lots of moments attached to being The First Daughter and trust me everyone has their different experience either in the tough way or easy way but 
Baby girl, in all you do remember you can't jeopardize your life for others.

Do the best you can,
Support your family and siblings in every way you can but,
Don't start what you can't end.
A lot of ladies are out there blaming everything they have passed through or justifying their wrong act under T.F.D (The First Daughter).

Just because you are T.F.D doesn't mean you can't live your life.
Everyone has their different assignments.
Do yours in your own way and trust God to fill you with Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding
To lead your younger one in the right way as the role model and handle every situation in the right way!

God bless us

*Alokan Temilade Victoria*
*Light Lamp*
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